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5 Signs You Are Being Emotionally Abused

June 23rd, 2017|0 Comments

Are you being emotionally abused? The first step to getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship is to realize that you’re in one. But it can be difficult. Why? Emotional abuse takes many forms [...]

Secrets To Successful Conflict Resolution

June 2nd, 2017|0 Comments

Conflict resolution. Why is it so important? Well, conflict arises in all meaningful relationships. In fact, whether the conflict arises between parent and child, between spouses, or between siblings, conflict is actually a key part [...]

Successful Co-Parenting – Do’s and Don’ts

May 19th, 2017|0 Comments

After a difficult divorce, your roles shift dramatically. You are no longer a spouse, but you are still a parent. These changes will probably leave you with a key question: how will you get [...]

What To Do If Your Lawyer Spouse Is Depressed

May 11th, 2017|0 Comments

  So you suspect your partner might be depressed? If they work in law, it is a distinct possibility. Depression in the US legal profession has become endemic. The statistics speak for themselves: depression [...]

How To Get Along With Your In-Laws

May 4th, 2017|0 Comments

While some of us are blessed with in-laws that are easy to get along with, for many others, they come with a whole host of problems. Maybe your in-laws are too involved or love to [...]

5 Excellent Reasons To Get Premarital Counseling

April 24th, 2017|0 Comments

Just got engaged? Premarital counseling is most likely the last thing on your mind. It seems so unromantic. After all, who wants to go digging up potential problems with their relationship during this exciting, [...]

5 Most Damaging Things You Can Do To Your Relationship

February 24th, 2017|0 Comments

What’s the most damaging thing you can do to your relationship? Many people would probably say infidelity. But cheating is far from the only way we feel betrayed. There are a lot of other [...]

How To Cope When Your Partner Has Depression

January 20th, 2017|0 Comments

One of the most difficult situations a couple can face is when one partner suffers from depression. Most of the attention is usually focused on the person with depression. But it’s important to recognize [...]

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How To Overcome Your Fears After Divorce

January 12th, 2017|0 Comments

Divorce can be one of the most traumatic experiences of our lives. Once we’ve been through a divorce it can be terrifying to think about starting again. Often, fear of the unknown can hold [...]

3 Top Reasons Why You’re Fighting Over The Holidays

December 24th, 2016|0 Comments

Even though the holiday season can be a magical time of the year, it also has the reputation of being a stressful one. Couples have to fulfill social obligations, shop for presents, and in [...]

3 Conversations To Have Before Getting Married

May 31st, 2016|0 Comments

Right before getting married, when your relationship is still heady and full of wonder, you might hesitate to approach sensitive subjects. Perhaps you are shy, or you want to preserve the romantic magic. However, [...]

Bonding With Stepchildren – 5 Simple Steps

May 23rd, 2016|0 Comments

So the divorce is over. The raw emotions are beginning to heal and now you’re finally ready to move on. You’ve met someone new. It looks like the start of a wonderful new chapter [...]

3 Pillars Of A Strong Relationship

May 13th, 2016|0 Comments

The ingredients for a happy, fulfilling relationship are different for every couple. Everybody has different needs. With that said, there is a science to building a strong relationship - partnership that is healthy, loving, [...]

The Healthy Family Business – 6 Steps To Working Better Together

May 6th, 2016|0 Comments

For much of history, the bulk of human enterprise stayed within the family – from the farmer’s children helping to plow the fields to princes learning the art of governance. However, while family businesses [...]

Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? 4 Questions To Ask

April 22nd, 2016|0 Comments

By the time we’re adults, most of us learn that even the best relationships take work to maintain. Unfortunately, it often takes a bit longer to learn that there are also some relationships no [...]

5 Tips For A Long-Lasting Marriage

April 15th, 2016|0 Comments

For many of us, our marriages are a huge part of our lives. But let’s face it, it’s not always sweet. Routine, career pressures, and raising kids can all present certain challenges to a [...]

Food Fights – How To Avoid Conflict

March 30th, 2016|0 Comments

Turn on the TV during a political campaign, and chances are you’ll hear the ‘kitchen table’ cliche used to describe shared family decisions. But what happens when that kitchen table becomes a battleground? With vegetarian, [...]

Life Decisions Vs Your Relationship

March 18th, 2016|0 Comments

There are points in all of our lives where we come to major life decisions that will greatly impact our future – switching jobs, moving to another city or country, or making some radical change [...]

So You Want To Stay Friends With Your Ex?

February 11th, 2016|0 Comments

It’s been said that breakups are never easy, but one of the most difficult and confusing questions is one that comes after the fact – do you stay friends with your ex, cut off contact, [...]

Healthy Habits For Happiness

December 7th, 2015|0 Comments

“Happiness” - what it means, how to achieve it - is in no way straightforward. With the demands of modern society weighing heavily upon us, it may feel like our “happiness” is far out of [...]

Being Single Again – Making It Work

November 24th, 2015|0 Comments

Mary Kay Blakely once described divorce as “the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass” – a more apt analogy than you might think at first glance. Yes, divorce may seem as painful as heart [...]

Divorce and Children – How To Protect Them

November 24th, 2015|0 Comments

It goes without saying that the emotional toll that divorce has on a couple can be significant. Whether or not the divorce was amicable or uncivil, the effects can be long-standing. Divorce and children, however, [...]

Achieving Better Work/Life Balance

November 9th, 2015|0 Comments

Within a culture hellbent on getting results right here, right now, whatever the means, the contemporary workforce is struggling to balance personal and professional lives. Striking the perfect balance has become all the more challenging [...]

5 Steps To Dealing With A Breakup

September 15th, 2015|0 Comments

So, it's finally over. There is no more "we" or "us", only "me" and "you". Dealing with a breakup can be a shattering experience. How do you go about rebuilding yourself after a relationship ends? [...]

Dealing With Difficult In-Laws

June 16th, 2015|0 Comments

Any relationship between two people can be tricky to navigate at times - clashing communication styles, life goals or personality traits. So it should come as no surprise that relationship pressures increase when additional people [...]

How To Handle A Control Freak

June 4th, 2015|0 Comments

Are you romantically involved with a control freak? If you're not sure, ask yourself a few questions, such as: 1) Does your significant other get upset when they don't get their way? 2) Do they [...]

The Intricacies Of The Introvert

May 29th, 2015|0 Comments

Dating can be a difficult task for anyone. You have to allow yourself to be open to new people and new situations. By putting yourself on the line, you choose to be vulnerable and exposed, [...]

Breaking Up In Today’s World

May 14th, 2015|0 Comments

"Breaking up is hard to do", so the old song goes... but in 2015 it's even harder! In a technological society, the act of breaking up is merely the first step towards completely parting ways. [...]

Spring Clean Your Relationship!

April 24th, 2015|0 Comments

Spring is officially here! The trees and flowers are shaking off the last bite of Jack Frost and they're ready to win us over with their charm. Spring offers the possibility of renewal with the [...]

The Rise of Gray Divorce

April 16th, 2015|0 Comments

Getting divorced is no easy decision. Multiple factors come to a boiling point resulting in both partners deciding to end their marriage. During the proceedings, numerous elements have to be discussed and considered before anything [...]

Throw Your Anniversary A Curveball!

February 17th, 2015|0 Comments

Another year, another day, another opportunity to show your partner how much they mean to you. For past anniversaries, you have done the usual dinner date, movie night and weekend trip. This year, why not [...]

Single on Valentine’s Day?

February 12th, 2015|0 Comments

It's the New Year! The holidays are well and truly over and it’s time for a fresh start. You have your New Years resolutions set; you're ready to seize the year! Only now, your local [...]

Fix Your Relationship With A “Couple Bubble”!

November 10th, 2014|0 Comments

Relationships can be fraught with frustrations, misunderstandings and conflict - but learning to put your relationship first and foremost can be a supremely effective path to resolution! At the heart of the closest, most harmonious [...]

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Is Criticism Hurting Your Relationship?

November 4th, 2014|0 Comments

By Katherine Caputo, Google Author All couples clash from time to time. It's healthy and it's natural! What matters is not the fact that you argue - it's how you argue that's important. One of [...]

How To Manage Conflict

October 31st, 2014|0 Comments

Every couple is bound to experience conflict. What's important is how they approach it! Conflict can be a positive force in your relationship, helping it mature and develop as you start to understand each other [...]

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How To Overcome The Stigma Of Couples Therapy

October 31st, 2014|0 Comments

Relationship in trouble, but too afraid or ashamed to seek professional help? There is so often a stigma attached to couples therapy - perhaps more so than seeking therapy just for yourself. Read our latest [...]

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Is Sleep Sabotaging Your Relationship?

October 23rd, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author Do your partner’s early bird ways clash with your night owl habits? Birds of a feather may flock together, but when it comes to relationships, a night owl may get [...]

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Your Relationship During Pregnancy

October 21st, 2014|0 Comments

By Katherine Caputo, Google Author Most people realize that the relationship between couples can often go on the back burner in the aftermath of a new baby - but relationships can often take second place [...]

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Navigating Families over the Holidays

October 4th, 2014|0 Comments

By Harriet Pappenheim, Google Author Ah, holiday season. A time of merriment and festivity, of kicking back and relaxing, of spending precious time with your loved ones and rediscovering the joys of family bonds… or [...]

Your Relationship After Baby – What Happens Next?

September 11th, 2014|0 Comments

By Katherine Caputo, Google Author Whether you’ve been married two years or twelve, having your first baby will turn your world upside down. The wonder of having created a new life together can inspire new [...]

Why have Premarital Counseling? 4 Key Questions!

August 29th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author Planning a wedding is a whirlwind. You’ve booked the venue, sent out all the invitations, trimmed the guest list, and coordinated the entertainment, food, and photography. In the midst of [...]

College Applications – A Parent’s Survival Guide

August 19th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author The beginning of the school year is fast approaching! For those of you with kids entering their senior year of high school, that means something big - college application season [...]

How to Avoid Empty Nest Syndrome

August 14th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author With fall around the corner, kids around the country are heading off to that brave new world of college. It’s undoubtedly an adventure for them, but what does it mean [...]

What’s Your Love Language?

August 11th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author Do you and your partner have trouble communicating with one another? Maybe you feel as though there’s a cavernous rift between you two—you try to say one thing, but he [...]

Dealing with Divorce

August 1st, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author Though the vow traditionally goes, “til death do us part,” half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. Of course, no one goes into a marriage thinking [...]

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The Benefits of Taking a Couples Vacation

July 25th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Google Author It’s summer! The sun is hot, and the days are long. In other words, it’s the perfect time to get away, escape the daily grind and give yourself some much-needed [...]

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Blending Families – 5 Tips For Successful Step-Parenting

July 18th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Editor - Google Author You’ve found the love of your life - maybe even set the date! But you’ll be bringing more than simply a ring to the wedding. When you and [...]

Jill Abramson, the Pay Gap, and Having the Confidence to Speak Up

June 30th, 2014|0 Comments

By Piyali Syam, Blog Editor - Google Author “Ask and you shall receive,” or so the old saying goes. “To receive” is a passive verb, while “to ask” is an active verb, so the [...]

Roses are red, violets are blue, What does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

February 14th, 2014|0 Comments

It seems as if every year there is a debate going on as to whether or not Valentine’s Day is a holiday to actually invest in. Aside from claims that Valentine’s Day is just a [...]

Who Defines Commitment? You Do.

February 14th, 2014|0 Comments

In our lives there is a great deal of pressure on being committed in a relationship. But what does commitment really look like for a couple as the years go by? In 2011, Carlyle Jansen, [...]

You Are The Change That You Seek: Altering Your Own Behavior To Improve Your Relationship

February 14th, 2014|0 Comments

In this video, Elizabeth Bernstein, a columnist from The Wall Street Journal, discusses what she believes is the best approach to transforming your spouse’s behavior. Rather than critiquing the actions or habits of a loved one that [...]

Happy New Year! Here’s To 2014!

February 14th, 2014|Comments Off on Happy New Year! Here’s To 2014!

It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life for me             Ooh, And I’m feelin good. With a new year comes new beginnings and opportunities to learn [...]

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How Deep Is Your Love? A Reflection On Interfaith Relationships

December 21st, 2013|2 Comments

How deep is your love for your spouse? Your family? What about your religion? Of course, responses to such questions are not meant to be simple. A person’s connections with a spouse, with family members, [...]

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On A Scale Of 1-10…

December 5th, 2013|0 Comments

In Monday’s Wall Street Journal, Elizabeth Bernstein presented a fascinating article entitled "How Happy Is Your Marriage?" As many relationship therapists have come to discover, Bernstein explains that there are benefits of evaluating marriages by using rate-your-relationship questionnaires for [...]

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Family Ties: What Does Your Family Look Like?

November 28th, 2013|0 Comments

Thanksgiving marks the beginning of yet another holiday season. Known as one of the more traditional of American holidays, Thanksgiving calls special attention to the importance of family. In recent years, however, the idea of [...]

Continuing Conversations About Body Image

November 9th, 2013|0 Comments

Following along with the theme of last week's blog post surrounding natural beauty,it is crucial to evaluate how body image is related to the understanding of a person's sexuality. A positive body image fosters a [...]

Reflecting On Natural Beauty And Its Impact On Relationships

October 29th, 2013|0 Comments

Mirror, mirror, on the wall...                                    VIDEO: Dove "Real Beauty Sketches" Many of you may have come across this video put together by Dove this past spring. As a part of Dove’s “Real Beauty Sketches” [...]

Beyond Support

October 29th, 2013|0 Comments

To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health… We’ve all heard these poetically crafted vows at one time or another, reminding [...]

Review: The Unavoidable Disappearance of Tom Durnin

July 13th, 2013|0 Comments

First appeared on The program describes the setting as “The American exurbs. Sam’s Clubs and SUVs and Caribou Coffee and the eerie, shuttered windows of foreclosed strip malls.” That’s a bit pretentious, but, [...]

Victory for the LBGT Community

June 27th, 2013|0 Comments

From an historical and humanistic perspective, I am delighted in the latest Supreme Court rulings in favor of marriage equality and that the number of States supporting this equality are increasing, thus furthering civil [...]

Angelina Jolie and Her Double Mastectomy

May 17th, 2013|0 Comments

One has to be impressed with Angelina Jolie’s bravery and courage. A famous actress, known for her beauty, sensuality and sexuality, publically announces that her breasts have been removed. Angelina is an inspiration because, [...]

Social Media’s Impact on Us and Our Children’s Capacity to Connect

April 10th, 2013|0 Comments

I just read an interesting article in the New York Times that discussed the impact of Media on our health and happiness. The article stated that although instant electronic access provides tremendous convenience, there [...]

America Finds Love at Wal-Mart

April 3rd, 2013|0 Comments

“Low prices, high romance? A study of Craig’s List missed connections finds the superstore is a romantic hotspot in 15 States.” MSN Money* While the above may not apply to an upscale New York [...]

Money & Marriage

January 3rd, 2013|0 Comments

“PERFECT 10? NEVER MIND THAT. ASK HER FOR HER CREDIT SCORE.”* Couples serious about each other want to know everything about their potential partner’s past, including their sexual history, history of sexually transmitted diseases, [...]

The Joy of Falling in Love and Marriage

December 13th, 2012|1 Comment

The Sunday Review section of the New York Times has an article which is titled “New Love: A Short Shelf Live”. The article goes on to say that the thrill of falling in love [...]

Life After Death, Part II

December 6th, 2012|2 Comments

In my blog titled LIFE AFTER DEATH (1), I discussed the issues that can arise dealing with Wills and Inheritance, who gets what and who doesn’t and the conflicts that arise splitting families. This [...]

Electronic Communication for Post Divorce Antipathy

November 29th, 2012|0 Comments

The excellent article in the Sunday times, Nov. 25, on Post Divorce contact via electronic means ends with this paragraph: “As anyone who has ever quarreled electronically knows, keyboarded messages can nonetheless get testy. [...]

Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley

November 24th, 2012|0 Comments

COMFORT WOMEN? Not meaning to be disrespectful to the tragic Korean women who were horribly abused by Japanese soldiers during World War II, the phrase “comfort women” does ring a bell these days. What [...]

The Power of the Grid, A Life Unplugged

November 12th, 2012|0 Comments

An article in the Sunday Styles section of the 11/11 NY Times comments on how hurricane Sandy affected people’s lives. “The storm provided a rare glimpse of a life lived offline. It drove some [...]

The Political Divide: Politics and the Marital Relationship

November 6th, 2012|0 Comments

Politics and the choice of political party or candidate can often impact on the marital relationship and be illustrative of how differences are handled and experienced by the couple in the marriage. Watching the [...]


October 26th, 2012|0 Comments

John Bowlby had researched how attachment styles can be consistent over a lifetime. Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. went further in their research studying how attachment styles impact romantic relationships in [...]

PARC News – 10.4.2012

October 5th, 2012|0 Comments

Hope that everyone is having a great start to the Fall season! Here at PARC, we wanted to let you know that PARC affiliate Gwenn Nusbaum will be presenting a paper on a panel [...]

What’s New With PARC?

September 26th, 2012|0 Comments

On behalf of Park Avenue Relationship Consultants, we hope that you have enjoyed our blogger's insights on relationships, families and the variety of other topics we have covered on this blog. Our roster of founders [...]

College Grads and the Economy: Emotional Effects on the Individual and Family

July 31st, 2012|0 Comments

It is estimated that up to 52% of college graduates between the ages of 22-25 are either unemployed, underemployed or employed by jobs that do not require a college degree. Many of these young [...]

Are We Dying for Heroes?

July 27th, 2012|0 Comments

“The Dark Knight Rises” was sold out when I tried to see it. Admittedly, I haven’t seen the first two Batman movies either, though my 24 year-old client recommended them to me. She has [...]

“Crazy Busy”

July 13th, 2012|3 Comments

Is busyness the new status symbol? Tim Kreider’s New York Times article from July 1, 2012 titled “The ‘Busy’ Trap,” explores how busyness can affect how we relate to each other. A friend asks, [...]

Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise

July 8th, 2012|0 Comments

How extraordinary! That in this day and age, and in the United States, a democracy that believes in the rights of each individual man and woman, a sacred rite of marriage has been arranged [...]

A Pedophile’s Claim of Innocence

June 25th, 2012|1 Comment

Jerry Sandusky totally fits the profile of a pedophile. The term pedophile originates from the Latin roots meaning child love. Hidden under the perfect disguise of a popular, married, family man (now his adopted [...]

The Healing Value of a Group for Horace Mann Alumni

June 13th, 2012|0 Comments

As a group therapist who has led many groups including a group for women with histories of childhood sexual traumas since 1990, I am pleased with the ingenuity of the Horace Mann alumni who [...]

Horace Mann’s Legacy of Sexual Abuse, Shame & Suicide

June 11th, 2012|0 Comments

Suicide is often the final stop in the destructive, often intergenerational cycle of childhood sexual traumas. Frequently the perpetrator of such atrocities was abused him/herself and is thus reenacting a component of his/her own [...]

Money And Marriage

March 23rd, 2012|0 Comments

How money is handled in a relationship can cause a good deal of emotional distress. In the traditional relationship the woman stayed at home, took care of the children, handled all the social correspondence, [...]

Pre-Marital Counseling

March 16th, 2012|0 Comments

Pre-Marital Counseling is a solution a couple should try before they decide to marry. I have been seeing a number of people who come for Couple Counseling within the first year or two of [...]

Becoming A Parent and it’s Impact on the Marital Relationship

March 8th, 2012|0 Comments

Raising a child can bring parents to the height of joy and the depths of despair as it impacts on the marriage in a myriad of ways. How can such an innocent, cuddly baby [...]

Are Our Devices Separating Us?

March 2nd, 2012|0 Comments

Are our “communication” devices really helping us communicate or are they isolating couples and teens and teaching our teens distance rather than togetherness? Sherry Turkle, author of the acclaimed book Alone Together, questions if our [...]

The Corporate Couple-Gains and Losses

February 23rd, 2012|0 Comments

Many urban dual career couples graduating from prestigious colleges and universities look forward to being employed in high powered demanding jobs requiring grueling work hours and devotion to the corporation which rewards them with prosperous [...]

The Greatest Love Of All

February 17th, 2012|0 Comments

The loss of Whitney Houston is with me. In 1988, I included lyrics of her song, “The Greatest Love of All,” in a case I wrote up involving a client with a history of childhood [...]

“You don’t send me flowers, anymore”

February 12th, 2012|0 Comments

You remember the Barbara Streisand song, “you don’t send me flowers?” suggesting a loss of love? Well, that complaint resounds in my office before Valentine’s Day along with expectations and yes, sometimes demands for a [...]

‘A Separation’

February 8th, 2012|0 Comments

“A Separation,” a poignant, emotionally riveting family drama, is an Iranian film which could take place anywhere in the world. It is remarkable how the impact of an impending divorce can touch all of us [...]

Second Marriages

January 25th, 2012|0 Comments

Do second marriages work better than first marriages? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. The choice of a life partner is complex and based on a myriad of issues: sexual attraction, shared goals and interests, ability to [...]

Weddings: Whose Are They Anyway?

January 18th, 2012|0 Comments

Wedding planning can be the first major challenge a couple can encounter. Often considered as emblematic of the character and culture of the extended family its’ regalia can become a forum for various expression of [...]

The Political Divide: Politics and the Marital Relationship

December 17th, 2011|0 Comments

Politics and the choice of political party or candidate can often impact on the marital relationship and be illustrative of how differences are handled and experienced by the couple in the marriage. Watching the republican [...]

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher

December 10th, 2011|0 Comments

One does have to feel sorry for Demi Moore. Not so much that her marriage to Ashton Kutcher broke up, but because she appears to be such a fragile person, someone who needs loving caretakers [...]

After Thanksgiving

November 29th, 2011|0 Comments

We have now had a Thanksgiving Dinner and all the relatives have gone home, or you have gone home. Hopefully there was a lot of good cheer and enjoyable talk among those gathered at the [...]


November 21st, 2011|0 Comments

These are a few of the quotes I found when I Googled “Thanksgiving.”“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. [...]

Thanksgiving and In-Laws

November 13th, 2011|0 Comments

Many parents become anxious when faced with meeting prospective in-laws for the first time. This is especially true during the holidays, which have special meaning unto them selves. Holidays have always been a time for [...]

The Symbolic Significance of The Wedding Ring

November 7th, 2011|0 Comments

With this ring I thee wed. “To Bills’ Quarterback, Losing (Wedding Ring) Is Not Option” Ryan Fitzpatrick, married nearly five and a half years, says he never removes his wedding band. Not when he clips [...]

Raising A Child As A Single Parent

October 4th, 2011|2 Comments

Since 1950, the number of one-parent families has increased substantially. Separation and divorce are high on the list of adult life traumas. Add to them shared custody and you’re dealing with a multitude of conflicted [...]

Reflections of September 11th, 2001

September 13th, 2011|0 Comments

In 2007 I interviewed 24 older adults between the ages of 65 and 93 in three senior centers in Lower Manhattan. All of the seniors interviewed were living within a 2.7 mile radius of Ground [...]

The Effects On Teen Girls Of Posting Too Much Online

August 30th, 2011|0 Comments

I read a study recently that worried me and reminded me of some problems parents of teenage girls have been telling me about for the last couple of years. The study indicated that these girls [...]

Diversity in the Lesbian’s Right to Choose “I Do” or “I Don’t”

July 29th, 2011|2 Comments

Visibility of lesbian partnerships has seemed to rocket lately. In addition to the “The Kids are Alright”, the July 25, 2011 cover of the New Yorker Magazine portrayed two lesbians strolling hand and hand, clad [...]

Dominique Strauss-Kahn and Tristane Banon

July 20th, 2011|0 Comments

Well, we’ve come a long way Baby! At least in Manhattan. Certainly not in Paris where Tristane Banon, who was assaulted by Strauss-Kahn and nearly raped in 2003, is being excoriated in the French press [...]

Same Sex Couples and the Pressure to Marry!

July 12th, 2011|0 Comments

Only a few weeks ago I wrote complaining that same-sex couples couldn’t get married in the state where I work. So make no never mind, NY just passed a same-sex marriage law so that everyone [...]

Charlie Sheen & Lindsay Lohan: Notoriety and Fame

June 25th, 2011|0 Comments

Recently two well-known and successful entertainers grabbed the city’s attention. One, Charlie Sheen, spoke of his aggressive id, the other, Lindsay Lohan, appeared in court in a white satin skin tight dress followed by a [...]

Food Makes The World Go Around

June 17th, 2011|0 Comments

One’s relationship with food and one’s body size, shape and image may have a strong impact on the couple relationship. The need to have a perfect body, together with the need for admiration in the [...]

Chaz Bono’s Incredible Journey

June 11th, 2011|0 Comments

Chaz Bono’s current tour for his book, which records his incredible journey of self-acceptance as he underwent his transition from Chastity, the woman, to Chaz, the man, has been met with predictable vitriol from conservative [...]

Money Troubles: Feeling Poor On A Million Dollars A Year

June 5th, 2011|0 Comments

Couples who have a penthouse on Fifth Avenue overlooking Central Park, send their children to the most exclusive private schools, have a home in the Hamptons, and ski at Davos in the Swiss alps in [...]

Scarlett Johansson & Sean Penn: Too Big An Age Difference?

May 31st, 2011|0 Comments

This is an important question for anyone in this situation to consider carefully. The answer can be yes or no. The age difference seems all too apparent with Scarlett and Sean, perhaps because she looks [...]

“MARITAL MATTERS OF 2012: An Early focus on candidates’ relationships with their spouses—-and whose business it is.”

May 24th, 2011|0 Comments

When one runs for or is already in public office one’s marital relationship is up for grabs, which puts enormous stress on the relationship. Consider, for example, the relationships of Bill and Hillary Clinton, Eliot [...]

Anne Sinclair and Dominique Strauss-Kahn and Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger: Women married to violent Abusers

May 24th, 2011|0 Comments

One wonders why so many women remain married to horrible physical and emotional abusers of women. After all, Anne Sinclair and Maria Shriver are not poverty stricken women who must hang on to these devils [...]

Catherine Zeta Jones & Michael Douglas: A Relationship Beset by Bi-Polar Disorder

May 15th, 2011|0 Comments

The experience of living with a partner who suffers from bi-polar disorder, or manic depressive illness, is akin to living on a roller coaster. One can surmise that Catherine Zeta Jones had been subject to [...]

Kate Middleton, The Duchess of Cambridge

May 14th, 2011|0 Comments

One wonders what will happen to this beautiful woman who has decided to devote her life to a handsome prince and to walk behind him, shuffling like an ancient Chinese maiden, for the rest of [...]

“It’s Love at First Kill,” New York Times

April 26th, 2011|0 Comments

More and more young people are finding new and creative ways to meet. Internet dating sites, Myspace, Facebook and other on line sites are in vogue. It’s a whole new world, but the love story [...]

So, Your Partner Has Had An Affair?

March 20th, 2011|0 Comments

I thought that affairs might be an interesting topic to discuss, given the propensity of our public officials to engage in this type of behavior and to somehow involve us in it. Although I often [...]

It Ain’t Easy: Learning How To Listen

March 13th, 2011|0 Comments

Who said living together is easy? How often have I heard: “he comes home, goes to his computer, or turns on the TV to hear the news even before he takes off his coat,” or [...]

Blue Valentine

March 8th, 2011|0 Comments

I thought the acting was terrific! I think it is primarily a man's story...the deconstruction of this man's fantasy. The hero says at the beginning of the film that men and women love differently and [...]

Parent’s Angst About Adolescent’s Facebook Activities

February 13th, 2011|0 Comments

I have been impressed by the number of parents who have come to me lately with concern about their adolescent girl’s addiction to Facebook and their lack of judgement about what they post on that [...]

Body Image, Plastic Surgery & Relationships

February 7th, 2011|0 Comments

Body image, the manner in which the body is evaluated by one’s self, holds a significant contribution to expression of intimacy, sexuality and an overall sense of feeling lovable. For example, when shame is associated [...]

Balancing Relationships During The Holidays

December 31st, 2010|0 Comments

While this may be the season “to be jolly”, couples are often in pain when families don’t accept their partner due to differences in religion, race, sexual orientation, or socioeconomics. Often they are tormented by [...]

Mark Madoff & Fatherhood

December 19th, 2010|0 Comments

MARK MADOFF DOES TO HIS OWN SON WHAT WAS DONE TO HIM…..When Mark Madoff took his own life in New York City, his two year old son was sleeping in the next room.. It’s true [...]

Conflicts with Family During the Holidays

December 11th, 2010|0 Comments

It is so important to try and breach conflicts between parents and adult children over the holidays. I have worked with a number of adult couples and either the husband or wife’s parents in an [...]

The Benefits to Your Health of Having Strong Relationships

December 5th, 2010|0 Comments

The quality of people’s relationships really matters. Therapists have always known this, but now research has shown the same. The “Harvard Women’s Health Watch” expands on this by saying that good relationships influence our long [...]

Murder And Love In Their Hearts

November 29th, 2010|0 Comments

A difficult month is coming up for the possible heirs of a dying wealthy relative. This is the last month of the estate tax reprieve. What happens if it is not renewed? How do you [...]

Home For The Holidays

November 24th, 2010|0 Comments

Many people go “home” for the holidays, back to the family they see only a few times a year. They often expect the wonderful family portrayed in TV and movies and the “joyful” American holiday [...]

Thanksgiving and In-Laws

November 23rd, 2010|0 Comments

Many parents become anxious when faced with meeting prospective in-laws for the first time. This is especially true during the holidays, which have special meaning unto them selves. Holidays have always been a time for [...]


November 20th, 2010|0 Comments

Is marriage an affair of the head, heart and soul, or a legal contract? One is romantic and the other practical. What do you think? If you want a pre-nuptial how would you get your [...]

Wills And Inheritance

November 20th, 2010|0 Comments

Is there life after death? To whom do we leave our money and possessions when we die? How will it be received? Who gets what? Who gets left out and what is fair?My own personal [...]

Loving vs. Virginia

August 20th, 2010|0 Comments

On June 12th 1967 in Loving vs. Virginia the laws against interracial marriage were finally repealed. It is hard to believe that it is only 43 years since that time. "Americans born in the 21st [...]

Father’s Day 2010 Thoughts

June 16th, 2010|0 Comments

There was an interesting article in the Science Times on Tuesday, June 15th, about Fatherhood in male primates, especially some of their capacity to attach to the cuteness of infants. This then was followed on [...]

Remembering Fathers’ Day

June 24th, 2008|0 Comments

Sunday, June 15, Fathers’ Day, also marks my 42nd year of fatherhood. Fatherhood did not come easily for me. Between my wife and I, we had 32 nieces and nephews and for some years we [...]

More Thoughts on Same-Sex Marriage

June 19th, 2008|0 Comments

What's in a name? Does "wife" or "husband" define marriage or more aptly, the quality of a dyad? These questions are aptly pondered by Kent's remarks. My concern about same-sex marriages - whether legalized or [...]

Same-Sex Marriage

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

The struggle continues for the rights of same sex couples to marry, and it promises to be a protracted battle. In the meantime, I am seeing more couples who call themselves "husband and husband" and [...]

She Feels, I Think

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

In my previous article we indicated that men and women often recreate distinct, unique interpretations from similar shared experiences. From a male perspective, when this occurs it frequently culminates in a derisive: “she feels, I [...]

Sex-Linked Human Behavior

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

In our last article, we approached the significant grapple the past often inflicts upon present thoughts, emotions and actions. This behavior pattern, better known as transference, can exist in both conscious and unconscious states of [...]

Who We Are And From Where

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

In our last article we postulated two dynamics, one, the man’s conflicting desires for both attachment and autonomy, when entering a commitment and the woman’s sole wish for vow and security.It’s known that the nesting [...]

Past Is Present

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

In our last article we explored how the past intrudes upon the present and ardently influences the emotional quality of a relationship. Most people accept this at face value, an important face of life not [...]

Commitment Troubles

June 8th, 2008|0 Comments

One can infer that a female’s comfort level with commitment allows other components of personality to emerge. The man, however, frequently feels locked in by commitment. These characteristics are not always sex linked, as a [...]

Welcome to The Couple Shrink!

May 24th, 2008|0 Comments

WHAT IS OUR BLOG ABOUT?From the very moment we are born until our last breath, we are part of a meaningful system of relationships, affecting those we are deeply attached to as they affect us. [...]

When Does the Purr Turn into a Growl?

April 22nd, 2008|0 Comments

When does the purr turn into a growl? The answer usually is after the honeymoon, when the couple moves from the courtship or romantic phase to a real object relationship. One can infer that a [...]

The Lion and the Lioness

April 22nd, 2008|0 Comments

Before Marriage After Marriage After scrolling across two newspaper photographs of a lion and lioness, I couldn’t help but stop and ponder over the intrigue surrounding their behavior. In the first photo, we witness the [...]