A warm and fulfilling relationship with your spouse can be the sustaining center of your life. But often conflicting viewpoints and the stresses of day-to-day living can cause communication to break down. You may lead feel you can no longer fully connect with your partner. Marriage counseling with an experienced, well-trained marriage counselor can be the answer.
PARC’s highly trained marriage counselors can help both of you overcome a barrage of emotional obstacles, understand each other, and grow together. You can learn to discuss instead of argue, bond rather than talk past each other, and truly feel you are part of a strong, successful marriage.
The marriage counselors at PARC have decades of experience working with marriages and can aid you in finding out what is blocking your communication, opening the channels for true connection, and make your relationship a source of strength, love, and comfort. We offer marriage counseling individually for married couples as well as group therapy sessions with other couples.
RELATIONSHIP TIPS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE:
Many different issues may drive married couples into opposition. Here are some expert tips from our marriage counselors to help you keep your marriage strong, happy and healthy:
1. Don’t take comments too personally.
Easier said than done, especially if made in relation to your child-rearing, or how you run your household! However, remember that most parents simply wish to remain a part of their children’s lives, even after they’ve grown and flown the nest.
Their comments usually reflect a desire to be of some influence, and to feel important. If they sound critical, it is rarely because of a genuine desire to be hurtful. Rather, the majority of parents-in-law simply wish to help.
Rather than taking offense, be polite and respectful, but firm. Make it clear that you appreciate their input and that will always take their advice into consideration – but, however, that you will only act on it if you personally agree.
Of course, sometimes there will be genuine deep-seated grievances that need to be aired. If this is the case, professional help from a PARC family therapist can help ensure that these issues are resolved in a calm, supportive and neutral environment.
2. Keep your in-laws involved during family holidays and celebrations.
Holidays and family celebrations can be a particularly sensitive time for in-laws, especially if they don’t get to see their children’s families too often throughout the rest of the year.
If you’re hosting, encourage your in-laws to make a specific contribution – perhaps ideas for party games, or a recipe for dinner. Allow them to participate in organizing activities, and make time to chat whenever possible.
Making your in-laws feel that they belong and are special to you and your family at these times is important – but easily overlooked!
3. Present a united front with your spouse.
Always support your partner in an argument or disagreement with parents or in-laws, especially publicly. Remember, your relationship is the most important thing. Loyalty to your husband or wife comes first.